Healthy Boundaries & Communication
Healthier, happier, interpersonal relationships
You feel terrified to say ‘no’ or set clear limits…
So what are boundaries? Stated simply, they are expectations and needs that help you feel safe in your relationships. By setting boundaries, you communicate with others the perimeters that are acceptable to you and when they are overstepping those perimeters. You make it clear what is okay with you, and what is not. Boundaries protect your physical and emotional well being. While often they are rejected by those who are accustomed to your lack of clear boundaries, think of them as a form of self care, and putting yourself first.
The Six Types of Boundaries:
Physical - Your personal space and your personal preference for physical touch.
Sexual - How, or by whom, you want to be touched by, or spoken to (or about) in an intimate manner.
Intellectual - The extent to which your express yourself (your thoughts and ideas).
Emotional - How much you’re comfortable sharing your feelings at a given time and with whom.
Material - If, how, and with whom your share your personal belongings.
Time - How you spend your time and allow others to spend your time.
how WE can help
At Heroes & Helpers Mental Health, recommend communication materials from The Gottman Institute.
The Gottman Institute is the one of the leading research institutions on the dynamics of communication in marriages. They encourage couples who are struggling with communication to begin with building love maps (as stated here). Other extensive materials can be found on their website.
https://www.gottman.com/
How to Build Love Maps'
Name your partners two closet friends
What was your partner wearing when you first met?
Name one of your partners hobbies.
What stresses your partner right now?
Describe in detail what your partner did today or yesterday.
What is one of your partners greatest fears?
What is one of your partners favorite ways to be soothed?
What is your partners ideal job?
Name a person your partner dislikes.
And 50+ more insightful questions
imagine if you…
Understood how to say ‘no’ and set boundaries?
How might your days be different?
Could stop avoiding difficult conversations with loved ones?
How might your relationships change?
Felt connected to family and friends again?
Would you feel more joy and connectedness to the world around you?
WE want you to know:
You don’t have to navigate this alone.
Let’s work together.
faqs
Common questions about relationship therapy
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Relationship therapy isn’t about changing oneself, but about discarding the parts of oneself that no longer serve you. When this occurs, healing and communication can begin.
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It truly depends on the person. Some clients feel relief in just a few short months, while others need a year or two of weekly or biweekly care in order to feel relief.
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Please contact us! We would love to get you scheduled with one of our incredible therapists.
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